Attract And Keep The Best Mentors For You
Many articles focus on the mentor aspect of a mentorship relationship.
But what about the mentee?
How can you be the best possible mentee for your mentor?
It matters, because the better mentee you are, the better the mentors you’ll attract.
“When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” — Buddha
Mentorship is a relationship in which a more experienced or more knowledgeable person helps to guide a less experienced or less knowledgeable person. — Wikipedia.org
We all know some benefits of having a mentor, but for me personally, these are the best reasons:
- They accelerate your learning curve;
- They expand your connections;
- They tell you the cold, brutal truth; and
- They motivate you.
However, the point of this article is more fundamental than that:
How can I be a better mentee?
To receive the benefits of mentorship, it has to be a mutual relationship. There are some unspoken “principles” that exist to make the relationship work.
In this article, I’ll focus on what are some sought-after qualities in a mentee.
1. Listen, Be Open-Minded
A mentor will give you advice on a solution to a problem based on their experience. They take their precious time because they want to help YOU. You owe it to them to listen to what they have to say.
They will often tell you things you don’t yet comprehend. Be open-minded. Don’t correct them. Don’t interrupt them when they speak. Try to grasp their point of view.
Take notes. It shows you value their time. It’s also much easier for you to remember their advice.
Don’t check your cellphone or smart watch. Don’t check the time unless you’ve got something really urgent to do after. And when that’s the case, mention it at the start of the meeting.
2. Apply Their Suggestion
There’s no better proof that you listened than when you apply the advice they’ve given you.
You may not always agree with their advice, but sometimes they just see further ahead. For better or worse, try it nonetheless. Unless you’re certain it’s destructive to you or your business.
3. Follow Up With Them
After you’ve applied and let enough time pass to assess the results of the advice, follow up with them. Tell them what worked and what didn’t. A good mentor won’t be mad if you tell them your idea didn’t work. If they think they can improve on the advice, they’ll do their best.
Nonetheless, they’ll be happy you listened to them and did your best. They’ll be more willing to give you their time and give you important connections that can help you in other ways.
4. Be Grateful For Their Advice
This is very important for a healthy mentorship. Thank them for their valuable advice.
We always complain, yet always forget to thank the people who help or inspire us. Do it. But do it for them, not for you.
Mentors are people like you and I. Being recognized for your work is always nice.
5. Be Honest With Yourself
With all that said, it’s time for you to think honestly about yourself. About your behaviour:
- Do you REALLY listen when someone tells you something?
- Do you try to apply what people tell you, even when you don’t necessarily agree?
- Do you follow up with people who give you advice?
- Do you thank them for their help?
If you can honestly “yes” to those questions, you have some of the most important characteristics of someone who is mentor-able.
If you have mentors already, they probably like you. If not, now’s a good time to find some!
Think about this before seeking your next mentor.
Evaluate yourself honestly.
Be a better mentee and reap the benefits of a successful mentorship!
Thanks for reading, clapping and sharing! :)
First published here: https://medium.com/on-the-rise/5-ways-to-be-a-great-mentee-for-your-mentor-fbd29e961b61