We all have big goals, wether they be short term or long term. Goals that, even in our wildest dreams, would seem unachievable. We dream about them yet never act on them, simply because we “failed” once or twice in the past.
The truth is, we just weren’t ready for the obsession needed to reach them.
Here’s a quote from Conor McGregor, the Ultimate Fighting Championship lightweight champion:
I have to agree with him.
Think about a goal you set yourself and “failed”.
Why did you not “succeed”?
Did you REALLY do what was needed to accomplish it?
Were you obsessed with figuring how to do it, came up with a solid plan and executed, executed, executed?
Not a lot of people can handle it.
Let my current obsession inspire you:
My mission to gain 5kg of muscles in a month
This month, I decided it was time for me to put on 5kg of muscles. I have my own reasons for that, but that’s not the point of this story.
Notice how precise I was. Not “some” mass. Precisely 5kg. I original decided for 4.5kg, but you know, why not push myself even harder!
Be precise in your goals!
I’m an ectomorph, so gaining even 1kg in a month is hard work. So imagine how insane 5kg is! Hard for non-ectomorphs to comprehend this, but it’s at least as hard as losing 5kg for a mesomorph.
Here’s the summary of my 8 hour manic research:
I need to eat at least 4k calories per day, split at about 40/40/20 for proteins/carbs/fat. I’m aiming for 4.5k.
Those calories need to come from high quality foods.
I need to do full-body workouts, 3 times per week.
I planned every meals I would eat for the month. Sounds easy but it’s not! I obsessed over every little detail. I looked up all the nutrition facts for each ingredients I would put in my dishes. I had to know where the calories came from! Heck, I’m even eating broccoli for its benefits!
I came up with 3 meals, 2 snacks and 2 shakes I would eat/drink every day, leading to 4,506 calories. It’s basically 642.86 calories every 2 hours. I’m obsessive enough that I’m willing to eat the same 3 meals for a month, for the sake of achieving that insane goal.
That part is beyond hard.
With all that food, I’m always close to throwing up. It’s way too much for my 56kg body to handle. Heck, Dwayne Johnson needs about the same to maintain his weight. That guy’s a beast. In theory, I need 2036 calories to maintain my weight. So it’s more than double.
That workout is no walk-in-the-park either. It is REALLY intense! I very much struggle to even do half of it. Lifting a pen or going up/down the stairs afterwards shamefully painful.
Like the famous idiom says: “No pain, no gain”. It’s the truth.
“The thing about truth is, not a lot of people can handle it.” — Conor McGregor
And the hardest part is saying “no” to things I would normally say “yes” to.
Yesterday there was a going-away party for a friend, and I drank nothing, except for water. I have a strict no-alcohol policy for this month; it defeats the purposes of eating healthy and is very counter-intuitive to my goal. I also had to say “no” to going out to dinner where there would be nothing I could eat, or quantify stealthily enough to not look insane.
I have to let friends down for this month. Social pressure is hard but I persevere.
Are you ready to handle the obsession?
Are you ready to fantasize about precision on all aspects of your goal?
Are you ready to do things that TRULY push the limits of your body and mind?
Are you ready to disappoint people you care about?
Can you handle the obsession needed to reach your most insane goals?
You can do this!
Thanks for reading! :)
First published here: https://medium.com/swlh/can-you-handle-the-obsession-needed-to-reach-your-most-insane-goals-14e667b5912b